Funny story - at least I think it is funny.
So a few weeks before I decided to get serious about my weight, I was really in a bad funk. I'm sure Clint was tired of hearing me moan and groan so one day he said "if you lose ___ lbs., I will sell my boat and give up fishing." (He did mention an amount but I am keeping that confidential for now, but it is doable.) Well, if you know my husband, you know that is crazy talk coming from him because he is a little obsessive about fishing. Anyway, at that point I just kind of glossed over it because I was trying to figure out what I was going to do to get back on track.
A few weeks later I started this program and Clint saw I was serious. One night he got all quiet and acting kind of funny and I looked at him and he said "do you remember anything I said lately and are you going to hold me to it?" Well, of course I remembered what he said because it has been a major part of our lives for many years and that just wasn't something I was going to forget. Anyway, I said "Yes, I remember you saying you are going to sell your boat and give up fishing after I lose so many pounds. Are you starting to think about who you might sell it to?" I wish you could have seen his face and heard how fast he started back pedaling. He started changing how much I had to lose and then saying he didn't say he was going to give up fishing just the boat. I just laughed and said "no, that is what you said and I am going to hold you to it."
So, my point is, be careful what you say. It does make me feel good that Clint is worried this time and he believes I am going to achieve my goal. It is nice having so much support from everyone. So, what do you all think I should do? Let him off the hook or hold him to it? I think I should hold him to it!
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Let him off the hook! You would go insane if he didn't fish. Scott took last fall off and he drove me CRAZY!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd I wish I could get on track like you are! Great job! Keep it up!
I'm kinda with Dixie on this one - kinda. I think if you made him to stick to what he originally offered your, YOUR, quality of life may suffer a bit. Imagine how whiney and mopey he would be. Urgh. But at the same time, I don't think you should let him off the hook completely. Is there some sort of compromise you can make that benefits you a little more than it would him.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Dixie and Marcela. He will be whiney and mopey and make you miserable in return. ;) Why don't you modify the deal. Something like you get control of the keys to the boat once you reach the goal. Or he can only fish XX number of hours a month - he gets to pick when but has to stick to the agreed number. Something that will work out good for both of you!
ReplyDeleteSo will there be future deals once you have reached this goal? You are WELL you way and I am SO proud of you!!
Stacey
Okay, here is what I am thinking as a compromise - he can still fish as a non-boater so he will have to fish with someone else but we will sell the boat. If he could do that for a year, think of the money we will save! Then he can take me to Hawaii (yes, he promised that too) and we would actually be able to afford it. After a year, if he still wants a boat, he can get another one. What do you think?
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